One thing that bothers me the most when exchanging messages with women, is that they often decide to ghost you.
These Women in this case see themselves as some kind of royalty and see you as a simple servant, and hence they just interrupt the discussion without wasting their time or bothering answering you.
To understand why such a thing happen, keep in mind that women often get too much messages.
- They get messages from family.
- They get messages from girl friends.
- They get messages from their roster of boyfriends.
- They get messages from simps, or males trying to get something started directly or indirectly.
It is usually these simps that get ghosted.
My approach on ghosting, is to immediately disconnect, i have already removed several women from my facebook friends because they either ghosted me or took an eternity to reply.
At the end of the day, if someone takes a month to reply you, is he really a friend?
Interesting article by CNN:
https://edition.cnn.com/2024/08/18/health/when-is-it-ok-to-ghost-someone-wellness/index.html
QuoteWhen ghosting is or isn't OK
There are some people who would've preferred to be ghosted rather than knowing how much the "ghoster" dislikes them, Vilhauer said. But you can't predict how someone will feel — so, whether it's a friendship or romantic connection you're ending, generally, providing some kind of final communication so the recipient can at least process it is best, experts said.
The most acceptable reason for ghosting is, without a doubt, if there has been abuse or if further communication would put you in danger, Vilhauer said. In an abusive relationship, exiting it is often the most dangerous part, she added.
Sometimes, people have "attempted to reject someone before, and that person has responded really angrily or aggressively, and so they are afraid to try again," said Dr. Gili Freedman, an associate professor of psychology at St. Mary's College of Maryland and author of a 2018 study on ghosting among friends. "So they ghost to try to protect themselves."
Ghosting is also acceptable if the other person is exhibiting inappropriate behaviors such as sending unsolicited explicit photos, showing up at your workplace, contacting your exes, stealing from you or showing blatant disregard for your boundaries, Vilhauer said.
"What we don't know is, does it actually keep you safer? It's possible in the immediate aftermath, yeah," Freedman said. "What about if you run into them again? Does the fact that you ghosted make things worse or better? I don't know."
While some people think ghosting someone they've only been on one or two dates with is OK, experts disagree. Generally, they say that the kindest and most appropriate thing to do is to send a quick message such as this: "It was really nice to meet you, but I didn't feel a connection."
If you're actively considering ghosting someone, ask yourself if it's necessary or if you just want to avoid an awkward situation. Is ghosting going to solve the problem in a way that makes sense for you? Do you feel good about it?